Jaden had a REALLY rough day at school Tuesday...thankfully, i got a call from his resource teacher (special ed) before picking him up from daycare - so i was able to hear all about it from her first (since Jaden tends to leave out details...i usually only get bits of the story - & of course, bits from his side only)
it started with group work in her room...the 4 boys in Jaden's group were to answer some questions together...& if they didn't agree, they were to discuss it until they all came to the same conclusion...well once, Jaden's answer was different than the other 3...he was sure of his answer, so wouldn't budge - & come to find out the other 3 boys were right & he was wrong - ugh! Jaden hates to mess up! especially if he's the only one wrong...he put his head down & quietly started to cry :0(
then, in Math class (his best subject)...he went to the smartboard to answer a question - again, sure of his answer...only to sit down, & have the next kid go up & correct his answer, because it was wrong...again, total devastation & tears :0(
the day continued to suck...he misplaced the new dragon chapter book he's been reading (which he'd much rather read, instead of the Cam Jansen book he's assigned to right now)...small thing to most kiddos - but not so much for Jaden :0(
then at daycare, this one girl (who constantly picks on Jaden & is gonna get a beat down from me if she doesn't cut it out! ok, i'm kidding...ok, maybe i'm not ~lol~) started her crap, & was bullying Jaden...the daycare workers stopped it (again), but the damage had already been done & his feeling were hurt :0(
when i picked him up, he was in a somber mood...not really upset, but not his happy-go-lucky self...the girls had cheerleading practice, so i took advantage of the alone time with Jaden to concentrate on his homework - which was more studying, than anything...studying is always rough - because Jaden has a hard time retaining facts that are of no interest to him...so of course, when i quiz him - he answers wrong a majority of the time...which only makes him more & more frustrated - & less & less willing to try :0(
he finally put his head in his hands & started to tear up...he says, "geez! i'm just not smart enough."
i immediately responded with, "Bub, you are too! you are SO smart! just because u don't know all the answers, all the time, doesn't mean u're not smart!" i tried telling him about all the amazing things he can do - like memorize lines to movies & songs, after only hearing them one time...& being able to pick up music by ear, & play it on his keyboard...& learn all these cool facts about aliens, & robots, & ocean life...& he knows more about dragons than any other person i know! & how wild his imagination is - that he's able to come up with such crazy, fun stories...& how he can draw such unbelievable pictures! i told him that it takes smarts to do all those things!
i'd hoped it would help a little - he usually enjoys talking about the things that he loves, & is good at...& tell me - how do u explain to a 10yr old that he's just as good as his peers? when the reason he struggles is because he's physically wired differently than his peers?!
then he says, "i just wish i could ask a scientist to make me a robotic brain...so i was smart like everyone else."
tear :0(
it started with group work in her room...the 4 boys in Jaden's group were to answer some questions together...& if they didn't agree, they were to discuss it until they all came to the same conclusion...well once, Jaden's answer was different than the other 3...he was sure of his answer, so wouldn't budge - & come to find out the other 3 boys were right & he was wrong - ugh! Jaden hates to mess up! especially if he's the only one wrong...he put his head down & quietly started to cry :0(
then, in Math class (his best subject)...he went to the smartboard to answer a question - again, sure of his answer...only to sit down, & have the next kid go up & correct his answer, because it was wrong...again, total devastation & tears :0(
the day continued to suck...he misplaced the new dragon chapter book he's been reading (which he'd much rather read, instead of the Cam Jansen book he's assigned to right now)...small thing to most kiddos - but not so much for Jaden :0(
then at daycare, this one girl (who constantly picks on Jaden & is gonna get a beat down from me if she doesn't cut it out! ok, i'm kidding...ok, maybe i'm not ~lol~) started her crap, & was bullying Jaden...the daycare workers stopped it (again), but the damage had already been done & his feeling were hurt :0(
when i picked him up, he was in a somber mood...not really upset, but not his happy-go-lucky self...the girls had cheerleading practice, so i took advantage of the alone time with Jaden to concentrate on his homework - which was more studying, than anything...studying is always rough - because Jaden has a hard time retaining facts that are of no interest to him...so of course, when i quiz him - he answers wrong a majority of the time...which only makes him more & more frustrated - & less & less willing to try :0(
he finally put his head in his hands & started to tear up...he says, "geez! i'm just not smart enough."
i immediately responded with, "Bub, you are too! you are SO smart! just because u don't know all the answers, all the time, doesn't mean u're not smart!" i tried telling him about all the amazing things he can do - like memorize lines to movies & songs, after only hearing them one time...& being able to pick up music by ear, & play it on his keyboard...& learn all these cool facts about aliens, & robots, & ocean life...& he knows more about dragons than any other person i know! & how wild his imagination is - that he's able to come up with such crazy, fun stories...& how he can draw such unbelievable pictures! i told him that it takes smarts to do all those things!
i'd hoped it would help a little - he usually enjoys talking about the things that he loves, & is good at...& tell me - how do u explain to a 10yr old that he's just as good as his peers? when the reason he struggles is because he's physically wired differently than his peers?!
then he says, "i just wish i could ask a scientist to make me a robotic brain...so i was smart like everyone else."
tear :0(
6 comments:
Poor kiddo! Austin is emotionally sensitive too. He has self confidence issues and is what I consider "emotionally weak". For instance, he can't ask for something without tearing up. I just met with a psychologist about this the other day. She wants him in a social skills group at school. The other thing we are going to try is Equine Facilitated Psychotherapy. They have found having the kids work with the horses require them to be strong and be a leader. And having a huge beast, like a horse, shows them they are strong and in control of themselves and their emotions. Cross your fingers for us and maybe see if there is something similar in your area. Insurance is covering this as a mental health benefit.
wow, i actually know a lady who owns a farm & uses her horses for therapy purposes...used to babysit her kids when i was like 13! ~lol~ i will definitely email her right now...that sounds interesting - & totally makes sense! most of Jaden's emotions revolve around him getting something "wrong" (in his mind), or "messing up"...otherwise, he's a pretty confident guy...but he's constantly apologizing, even if we're just trying to steer him in the right direction - not reprimand him...he tries too hard to get everything right & please everyone, all the time - which i'm sure has everything to do with not feeling in control...thx so much for the info...sounds like it's def worth a shot! let me know how Austin does with it
Don't forget too that he's a growing kid. I don't know about boys (YET) but my daughter's emotions would just come and go..I think it's the pre-puberity and hormones. Some days are just better than others. And that's life...even when you grow up!
Here's two big hugs for Bubba...HUG. HUG!
Hang in there Jaden and Momma!! I felt like the growing up and still do sometimes. I also was in resoures until high school. I still have a hard time from time to time ever now. Some days are harder than others.
Wow...that is a lot for one boy to handle in one day:( Poor Jaden! Wesley is so incredibly emotional this year. I had no idea 5th grade was going to be so rough. I totally think you should beat that bully girl down;) I'm thinking of doing the same to one of Wes' soccer team mates. A few of us Mom's are planning a revolt against him, lol!
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